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So apparently I’ve been delinquent in writing The Better Half column. Who knew that planning a wedding was so time consuming? I’ve received a few emails from lovely readers asking for new articles, so I’m back!
How long is too long for men’s hair?
–Richard from North Carolina
Ok. Full disclosure here- I may not be the most objective person to write about this subject. I love men with long hair. Every single fantasy crush I’ve had since the mid 1990s has had long hair: Hanson, the green Power Ranger, Ville Valo, Chris Hemsworth as Thor–you get the picture. When I met Andrew in 2006, he had long black hair that hung several inches past his shoulders. It was glorious.
That being said, it’s definitely possible for a guy’s hair to be TOO long. Just as with any other part of your appearance, your hair needs to be maintained. Get regular trims to remove split ends, and wash your hair regularly so that your roots aren’t greasy. If you have curly hair, keep the brushing to a minimum and only brush your hair before you take a shower, otherwise you run the risk of looking like a fluffy, unkempt poodle. As far as length goes, this is really up to you. However, as a general rule, I’d say that you’re getting into dangerous territory if your hair goes past your armpits.
Why do girls like “bad boys” when they are all jerks in the end? Shouldn’t you girls know this by now?
–Peter from the USA
Well someone sounds frustrated! Look, I don’t speak for all women. It’s true that some women are attracted to “bad boys.” They either like the drama and intensity, or they feel like they can “fix” the guy. In general though, this isn’t the norm. Most women want relationships that are loving and where both parties have mutual respect for each other. And no, we shouldn’t “know this” by now because every relationship is different. Sometimes you can’t tell how a guy is going to act at the onset of a relationship.
That being said, I hear from MANY guys who don’t understand why they can’t get girls. They claim they’re such a nice guy, and that any girl would be lucky to be with them. But here’s the thing–just because you’re nice to us doesn’t mean we owe you anything. These “nice” guys tend to get upset when girls don’t reciprocate their feelings, and then they throw out accusations about women only liking bad boys and not liking nice guys like them. Sound familiar?
Most women can tell if you’re sincere or not in a heartbeat. If you’re only being nice to us because you think you can get something out of it, then that doesn’t make you a nice guy. I’ve been in too many situations where a guy has acted like a perfect gentleman to me, and then turned into a huge jerk when I turned down his advances. There’s a big difference between guys who are only nice for their own ends, and guys who are generally nice people. Kindness and good manners shouldn’t be limited to girls you’re trying to hit on.
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XOXO
-Maria
